CLAIR ESMAN - ABOUT ME
While I was studying for my Bachelor of Counselling I came across the works of Irvin Yalom, "I prefer to think of my patients and myself as fellow travelers, a term that abolishes distinctions between 'them' (the afflicted) and 'us' (the healers). We are all in this together, and there is no therapist and no person immune to the inherent tragedies of existence. Everyone is destined to experience not only the exhilaration of life, but also its inevitable darkness - disillusionment, aging, illness, isolation, loss, meaninglessness, painful choices, and death." Irvin Yalom
The idea of the counselling/therapeutic relationship being one of 'fellow travelers' was so significant to me that I adopted the concept into my philosophy then and there. As time went by and my knowledge and understanding grew, my belief in the concept has also grown. The quality of the relationship between a good counsellor and their client is a key ingredient in the possitive outcome of counselling. This relationship, like any other, can be imesurably enhanced by mutual respect - a state of equality in which both parties understand the other and recognise the significant qualities each brings with them to the relationship.
I practice 'person centred' therapy which accepts this philosophy and enhances the use of other forms of therapy in persuit of a possitive outcome - desired change, a new life direction, clarity/understanding, focus, possitivity, empowerment, coping skills, happiness. I offer counselling in all areas of life - stress reduction, life coaching, weight related issues, abuse counselling, trauma counselling (a difficult boss, a straind relationship, bullying), grief counselling/support, and the development of coping skills which may encance every day life.